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Parenting — Theory and Practice

What is your parenting style — authoritarian, permissive, egalitarian?

I don’t believe in authoritarian parenting (although under extreme stress, it’s SO EASY to say, “my way or the highway” attitude), nor do I promote no direction.

Parenting and education, in my opinion, are about empowering kids to think for themselves, make wise choices, and problem-solve.

The smart individuals are NOT those who can recite endless number of facts. The wise use what they know to figure out what they don’t know. They’re problem-solvers.  (Isn’t that what all employers want from employees?)

Good parenting gives children choices.  Good parenting empowers children to make age-appropriate decisions. Good parenting encourages consequences relevant to one’s actions (you make a mess, you clean it up. You vandalize, you fix it.  You vandalize, work and pay for it, etc.). Good parents simulate real-life situations in their kids’ lives because that’s where children are headed — employment.

Whether children like it or not (with the exception of trust-fund babies), they’re headed for the workforce — the world of production, responsibility, and problem solving.

If the workforce is what awaits our children after formal schooling, is it not the parents’ responsibility to equip, empower, and educate children to become caring, problem-solving, productive adults?

Healthy boundaries, high expectations, choices, and consequences relevant to one’s actions are the greatest gifts parents can give to raise solution-oriented, compassionate children.  Our children need “roots and wings, not wheels and cash! (Hodding Carter)

That’s my theory on parenting.

Application, on the other hand, is a whole another story.

My older son often says, “Mom, you’re so demanding!”  My response, ”You’ll thank me on your first day back from work.”

Parenting is hard work. Parenting is art.
Suggestions? 🙂

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December 15, 2008 - Posted by | Education, Heart, Introspection, Leadership, Love, Mind, Spirit | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

1 Comment »

  1. I agree, a good goal to have is to teach our children how to think for themselves. They are exposed to more choices at an earlier age than in the past.

    Laura
    http://primaryparentingonpurpose.wordpress.com/

    Comment by Laura C. Ries | December 17, 2008 | Reply


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