Heart-to-Heart Connection

To inspire and be inspired!

Dale Carnegie’s “Six Ways to Connect With People” (IV)

Yesterday, we discussed three ways to connect with people:

  1. Become genuinely interested in others
  2. Smile
  3. Say the person’s name often

Today, we’ll talk about Dale Carnegie’s three additional insights on relationship-building:

  1. Be a good listener.  Encourage others to talk about themselves
  2. Talk about other person’s interests
  3. Make the other person feel important — be sincere

(1) Be a good listener — remember, the people you are talking to are a hundred times more interested in themselves and their wants and problems than they are in you and your problems.  A person’s toothache means more to that person than a famine in China killing millions.  A boil on one’s neck interests the person more than forty earthquakes in Africa.

(I agree, for the most part; however, people also enjoy a stimulating discussion on world affairs.  Bottom line, “be a good listener.”)

(2) Talk about other person’s interests — Learn the other person’s interest and ask questions — the quickest way to build rapport and relationships!

(Right on!  However, don’t fire questions like a machine gun.  I once had a person do this to me. The experience haunts me to this day.  I thought she was my friend, not an interrogator.)

(3) Make the other person feel important. Be sincere. — The unvarnished truth is that almost all the people you meet feel themselves superior to you in some way, and a sure way to their hearts are to let them realize in some subtle way that you recognize their importance, and recognize them sincerely.

(Love, warmth, genuine interest — sounds like a plan!)

Thoughts? 🙂

Advertisements

July 8, 2009 - Posted by | Attitude, Book Review, Business, Change, Collaboration, Compassion, Education, Freedom, Gratitude, Health and Wellness, Heart, Introspection, Journalism, Leadership, Love, Marketing, Marriage, Mind, Passion, Peace, People, Politics, Purpose, Self Help, Soul, Spirit, Spirituality, Success | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

No comments yet.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: