Heart-to-Heart Connection

To inspire and be inspired!

Dale Carnegie’s “Twelve Ways to Persuade”– Empathize, Ask Questions, Listen (VI)

If someone told you to take a hike, what would you do?  Would you turn the other cheek?

Me?  Not a chance … unless I was an actress reading a script!  An eye for an eye, tooth for a tooth — BRING IT ON BABY!

But where does that get me?  Not resolution.  Bridges burned — at the speed of lightening, that’s for sure. 

Searching for a win-win solution?

(4) Principle 4: Begin in a friendly manner

Mr. Straub successfully negotiated his rent with his landlord.  How?  Unlike the other tenants, who complained and criticized, Mr. Straub met his landlord with good will and enthusiasm.  He commented on how the landlord ran the building and would like to stay another year but couldn’t afford it.  The landlord immediately offered to lower the rent.

Problem-solve with the friendly, appreciative, empathetic approach! (Yes, Mr. Carnegie!)

(5) Principle 5: Get the other person to agree

Did Socrates tell people they were wrong?  No, he was wise.  He asked questions where the opponent would have to agree; getting the “Yes” responses.  Respect, empathize, listen, help the other party think and decide. For example, here’s a story of a bank customer who refused to give out certain information when opening his account:

Banker: “The information you chose not to disclose is unnecessary … however, suppose you have money in this bank at your death.  Wouldn’t you like to have the bank transfer it to your next of kin, the person entitled to it according to law?

Customer: “Yes, of course.”

Banker: “Don’t you think it would be a good idea to give us the name of your next of kin so that, in the event of your death, we could carry out your wishes correctly?”

The young man’s attitude softened and changed when he realized that we weren’t asking this information for our sake but for his sake.

Now why didn’t I think of this?! … Because my name isn’t Socrates! (But I’ll sure try asking the right questions.  Thanks Mr. Carnegie!)

(6) Principle 6: Handling complaints — Listen.  Let others do the talking.

The majority who try to persuade talk too much.  Listen.  Let others talk.  Let them tell you a few things.  Make others feel important.  Don’t stir envy.

Henrietta was good at her job but for the first few months, she had no friends.  Why?  She bragged about her accomplishments.  The tables turned when she began listening and let her associates share their accomplishments.  Now, Henrietta listens to others’ joys and mentions her achievements only when asked.

(Smart lady.)

A teenage girl rebelled against her overbearing mother — until the mother stopped talking and began to listen.  The daughter expressed her thoughts, feelings, and her confusion about growing up.  The mother/daughter relationship improved when the mother began to listen.

(I have a preteen son.  I will take your advice to heart, Mr. Carnegie!)

Thoughts?

Tomorrow, we’ll discuss:

  1. How to get cooperation
  2. A formula that will work wonders for you
  3. What everybody wants

Stay tuned! 🙂

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July 12, 2009 Posted by | Art, Attitude, blogging tips, Book Review, Business, Change, Collaboration, Compassion, Education, Finance, Freedom, Gratitude, Health and Wellness, Heart, Introspection, Journalism, Leadership, Love, Marketing, Mind, Passion, Peace, Politics, Purpose, Self Help, Soul, Spirit, Spirituality, Success | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

How to Be Interesting — Improve Conversation Rates!

Just stumbled upon a highly informative blog on “How to boost online conversation” (as always, thanks Copyblogger for the useful tips)!

When it comes to web design, there are no firm set of rules. But following these simple guidelines will help you optimize your site and improve conversation rates:

  1. Fantastic visuals grab visitors attention
  2. Great headlines encourage action
  3. Float your best content to the top
  4. Make important content stand out (see also How to be Interesting)
  5. What’s in it for me? (provide informative/entertaining content)
  6. Fewer questions boost conversions
  7. Run usability tests
  8. Test, repair, and retest  (Full Story) 🙂

June 7, 2009 Posted by | Attitude, blogging tips, Blogs, Change, Journalism, Marketing, Purpose, Self Help, Success, Technology | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Teamwork — Believe, Achieve, Succeed!

Teamwork makes everything possible!

(See also Untamed and Uncut — Orcas Attack Seal)

Believe, achieve, succeed!  If orcas can do it, so can we! 🙂

June 6, 2009 Posted by | Attitude, blogging tips, Blogs, Business, Change, Collaboration, Dream, Education, Freedom, Health and Wellness, Introspection, Leadership, Marketing, Mind, Passion, Politics, Purpose, Self Help, Spirit, Stress, Success | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Twitter — Market Your Website Without Search Engines!

Until last night, I thought Twitter was an easy way to talk about tidbits of your life with those interested in you and your thoughts.  My stifled imagination didn’t realize, next to word of mouth, Twitter is THE way to share your website — on “Silver Platter”!

Thanks to Copyblogger’s “Marketing your Website Without Search Engines,” Dosh Dosh got me thinking about the power of good old word of mouth (Twitter is 21st century’s “word of mouth”).

When you’re looking for a handyman, a dentist (affordable, skilled, and efficient), or great deals (from food, clothes, to cars), who would you ask — the business owners or a trusted, respected friend?

If you’re like me, you’d ask a friend.

Business owners, in general, have their interests in mind (yes, a few bad apples — the AIGs [Adventures In Greed] — can definitely give the honest, hard workers a bad name).

Friends support.  Friends help.  Friends will tell friends which products and services worked for them and why — simple, honest, truth from the heart.

Twitter is our easy-to-use 21st century friend, connecting us with our friends and followers — share your favorite thoughts, experiences, and products online with computers and cell phones — in 140 characters or less!

Thanks to WordPress, we can now Twitter from our blog (Go to Add New Post, see left column, click Appearance, Widgets).  I’ve just added mine last night (see Sneak Preview, top right).  I have yet to find out whether this feature will be helpful to visitors, but I thought I’d try.

You’re the judge.  Was the Sneak Preview helpful?

Love to hear your thoughts!  🙂

April 20, 2009 Posted by | Attitude, blogging tips, Blogs, Business, Change, Collaboration, Dream, Education, Finance, Freedom, Heart, International, Journalism, Marketing, Mind, Passion, Peace, Politics, Purpose, Self Help, Soul, Spirit, Success, Technology | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Hiring Entrepreneurs!

“Future job markets will seek entrepreneurial individuals— the problem-solvers, life-long learners, high energy, critical thinking, flexible individuals.”  (Steve Mariotti, National Foundation for Teaching Entrepreneurship).

Programs are offered nationwide — for children and adults.  (Don’t forget “life.”  Life has always been my best teacher!)

With the following qualities, we can all become entrepreneurs:

  • Passion and Ambition
  • Communication Skills
  • Discipline / Strong Work Ethic
  • Experience and Knowledge
  • Goal Setting
  • Innovation
  • Leadership Qualities
  • Risk-Taking
  • Self Confidence

The only time I fail is when I fail to try (most of the above will be my life-long goals).  To try or not to try — pink slip or entrepreneurial spirit — do I have a choice?

Which would you choose?

Full Story

January 28, 2009 Posted by | Attitude, blogging tips, Change, Dream, Education, Freedom, Introspection, Journalism, Leadership, Marketing, Mind, Passion, Purpose, Spirit, Success, Technology | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Top Keywords

GoRank Ontology Finder (Related Keywords Lookup Tool) is an excellent free online tool for locating the top (related) keywords against Google index.

Visibility = engaging content + search engine placement

Generate thousands of relevant keywords.  Optimize your content using the most popular keyword for your post.  Use them in your blog and tags.  Readers will find your site when they search.

Full Story Here

January 16, 2009 Posted by | Attitude, blogging tips, Blogs, Book Review, Education, Marketing, Mind, Passion, Purpose, Success, Technology | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Inspire! Empower!

If you’re an expert — with the passion and the know-how to inspire and empower others — JOBS.PROBLOGGER may be for you (hosted by PROBLOGGER‘s authors, Darren Rowse and Chris Garrett)!

According to Darren and Chris, “Keep in mind that hundreds of other bloggers are also watching these job boards, so quick, accurate, substantive response is a must.”

(Professional blogging may be the perfect career choice for the highly competent, driven individuals.  Society will benefit from your passion, thoughts, and expertise!)

Furthermore, if you want to avoid getting sued for your words and ideas, International Libel and Privacy Handbook: A Global Reference for Journalists, Publishers, Webmasters, and Lawyers, Second Edition may be a book worth looking into.

(Unfortunately, there are folks out there who make it their life’s work to make others’ lives miserable)

International Libel and Privacy Handbook is the tool of choice for journalists, publishers, professionals, bloggers, and opinion leaders who write about other people (at times, in less than a positive light).

January 14, 2009 Posted by | Attitude, blogging tips, Blogs, Book Review, Dream, Education, Introspection, Journalism, Love, Marketing, Passion, Purpose, Spirit, Success, Technology | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Google to the Top!

Life isn’t fair — including blogosphere!

According to Jumping Over the Google Sandbox, newcomers’ sites remain in the sandbox until they’re mature enough — six to eight months — to be included into Google’s Top Positions club (I thought probation was three months.  Google is definitely cautious.  They want to make sure you’re legit).

Why?

It’s the “one rotten apple spoils the barrel” syndrome, thanks to black hat practices like bulk buying links, creating duplicate content, or simply keyword stuffing to get to the top.

But effort, dedication, and hard work will pay off.

Experts suggest bloggers:

  • Actively gather content and good links from trusted sources (CNN, Fortune 500, and other reputable sources.  “Reputable” is subjective.  To each his own).  Build links slowly and steadily.  Five hundred links per month is a sure way to kill your site.
  • Host on a well established host (excludes free ones).  I like the user-friendly, customer-service-oriented, free WordPress.  When the time comes, I’ll cross the bridge to paid sites.
  • Concentrate on less popular keywords — not-so-popular keywords are enough to keep the ball rolling.  I’m a newbie.  Beggars can’t be choosers.  I’ll try this.  I want to inspire (that’s what Heart-to-Hear Connection is all about — inspiration).  I also want to be inspired by fellow bloggers — that’s YOU!  Love to hear your thoughts!
  • Rely more on non-Google ways to increase traffic — WordPress blog stats is one great way to stay connected with your incoming links — yes, fellow bloggers!

Tomorrow, I’ll share my favorite book on “Secrets for Blogging.”  Job Boards may open several new doors for those who want to go pro.

Stay tuned!

January 13, 2009 Posted by | Attitude, blogging tips, Change, Collaboration, Education, Journalism, Leadership, Marketing, Mind, Money, Passion, Purpose, Spirit, Success | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Copywriting Tips for Top Notch Bloggers

Want to learn more about the art and techniques of writing first class blogs? Try CopyBlogger.  It’s now the most popular site on the subject — more than 47,000 subscribers!

Here’s a glimpse of the concise, entertaining, informative site:

Success boils down to relationships and customer service.  Do you agree or disagree?

There’s so much to learn; never a dull moment!  (At times, I get so overwhelmed — there’s so much I don’t know — I try to learn one new thing each day.)

Wishing you all a successful journey!

January 12, 2009 Posted by | Attitude, blogging tips, Blogs, Journalism, Marketing, Mind, Passion, Purpose, Success, Technology | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

2008 — Top 15 Blogs!

You chose — The Top 15 Blogs at the Heart-to-Heart Connection!

Love

Attitude

Mind and Health

Parenting

Communication and Journalism

History and Current Events

Thank you SO MUCH for your continuing support and readership! I wish you and yours happy, healthy, and prosperous 2009!

See you next year!  🙂

December 31, 2008 Posted by | Attitude, blogging tips, Book Review, Change, Christianity, Citizen, Collaboration, Compassion, Dream, Education, Gratitude, Heart, Holidays, International, Introspection, Journalism, Leadership, Love, Marketing, Mind, Passion, Peace, People, Purpose, Soul, Spirit, Success | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment