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Ecclesiastes 10:1-12:14  Wisdom for Life.  A wise person chooses the right road; a fool takes the wrong one.  If your boss is angry at you, don’t quit!  A quiet spirit can overcome even great mistakes.  Kings and rulers make a grave mistake when they give great authority to fools and low positions to the wise … Conclusion: Fear God and obey His commands, for this is everyone’s duty.  God will judge us for everything we do, including every secret thing, good and bad.

2 Corinthians 8:1-15  Give joyfully.  Your giving should not make life easy for others and hard for yourselves. There should be some equality.  Right now you have plenty and can help those in need. Later, they’ll have plenty and can share when you’re in need. In this way, things will be equal.

Psalm 49:1-20  Faith vs. Wealth.  In the morning the godly will rule over the rich.  The rich bodies will rot in the grave, far from their grand estates.  But as for me, God will redeem my life … When the rich die, they take nothing.  In this life, they consider themselves fortunate and are applauded for their success.  But they will die like all before them and never again see the light of day.  People who boast of their wealth will die, like animals.

Proverbs 22:20-21  Sayings of the Wise.  I have written thirty sayings for you,  filled with advice and knowledge.  In this way, you may know the truth and take an accurate report to those who sent you.






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Nehemiah 3:15-5:13  The Jews work zealously to restore the walls of Jerusalem.  Furious enemies mock the Jews but God provides protection.  Nehemiah defends the poor, oppressed, over-taxed Jews from the wealthy Jews.  Said Nehemiah, “You are hurting your own relatives by charging interest when they borrow money!” He called a public meeting.  Wealthy Jews repent and return the monies to their less fortunate brethren.

1 Corinthians 7:25-40  Apostle Paul encourages celibacy; however, promotes marriage if that will help keep passions under control. Paul also recommends marriage between believers but upholds celibacy above all.

Psalm 32:1-11  I will confess my rebellion to the Lord.  And you forgave me! All my guilt is gone.  Many sorrows come to the wicked but unfailing love surrounds those who trust the Lord.  So rejoice in the Lord and be glad, all you who obey him!  Shout for joy, all you whose hearts are pure!

Proverbs 21: 5-7   Good planning and hard work lead to prosperity, but hasty shortcuts lead to poverty.  Wealth created by a lying tongue is a vanishing mist and a deadly trap.  The violence of the wicked sweeps them away, because they refuse to do what is just.




August 12, 2012 Posted by | Attitude, Business, Change, Christianity, Compassion, God, Gratitude, Health and Wellness, Leadership, Marriage, Mind, People, Purpose, Self Help, Soul, Spirit, Spirituality, Success | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

I’m Spending My Kids’ Inheritence

How would you respond to this bumper sticker — “Right on!” or “How selfish!”

Billionaire Warren Buffett will say “Right on!” every time.  Why?

“In life, you’re not entitled to a free ride.” ”Money or life?  I chose life.” “Life is what you make it .”

Do you know of a family or two who no longer speak to one another after fighting over their inheritance?  If parents leave nothing, children may resent mom and dad.  So what?!  They’re already at a much better place.  Resent all you want.

More importantly, families who continue to inhabit the land of the living will have an ongoing relationship — birthday parties, Thanksgiving dinners, and all that jazz!

“Give enough [to your children] but not enough to do nothing.”

Mr. Buffet, you are brilliant!

July 11, 2010 Posted by | America, Attitude, Book Review, Business, Change, Education, Family, Gratitude, Health and Wellness, Heart, Holidays, Introspection, Leadership, Love, Mind, Money, Peace, Purpose, Self Help, Soul, Spirit, Stress | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Math and Science Made Simple at Khan’s (Free Virtual) Academy!

I didn’t choose a business or a science field because I couldn’t make sense of what I should have learned in high school; but from this day forward, I’m saying “Adios!” to my math and science phobias!  

If you can relate, welcome aboard.  Check out Kahn Academy, where YouTube’s ‘professor’ Sal Khan make both basic and seemingly difficult concepts — from addition to calculus, chemistry to physics — a walk in the park!

Khan’s lessons are free, 10 minutes or less, simple, visual, and self-paced — start and pause as we please!  If I can learn, you can, too!

These testimonials say it all:

  • “I learned more about calculus in the last few hours than in the whole of the last semester at university.  I was almost ready to change majors because I wasn’t understanding much of the content but am now up to speed.” (Derek Hoy/ Geophysics Major at University of Queensland, Australia)
  • “I think he rocks.  I’m studying pre-algebra and I love it!”  (Felix Thibodeau, 11, Wilmington, N.C.) (Full Story)

Happy learning! 🙂

June 27, 2010 Posted by | Attitude, Business, Change, Education, Freedom, History, International, Passion, Purpose, Success, Technology | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

The Path of Least Resistance or the Path of Greatest Satisfaction

“At the start of life, randomness rules.  No one deserves to be rich or poor, privileged or oppressed, healthy or challenged.  No one deserves good or bad parents.  These are things that happen randomly to the life that has just begun.  They are neither fair nor unfair; they simply are.”

So true, so simple, yet equally profound — spoken with conviction by Peter Buffet, an Emmy Award-winning composer and producer, cochairman of the NoVo Foundation, and the son of a billionaire investor, Warren Buffet.

Peter Buffet continues, “Secular advantages [and gifts] such as loving, nurturing parents and economic security become meaningful — truly our own — only by virtue of what we do with it, by how we return it to the world.”

Which do we truly appreciate — what we’ve earned through hard work or a gift?  Gratitude or entitlement? 

“Self-respect comes only from earning one’s own reward … My father’s plan was to give [all of his] wealth back to the world that had produced it in the first place.” (Full Story)

Work ethic or wealth ethic?  Self respect of status?  Process or payoff?  Passion or monotony?  Adventure or security?

We have one life to live.  The choice is ours. 🙂

June 13, 2010 Posted by | Attitude, Book Review, Business, Change, Compassion, Dream, Education, Freedom, Gratitude, Heart, Introspection, Leadership, Mind, Money, Passion, Peace, Purpose, Self Help, Success | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Realize BIG Dreams! Realize the Impossible!

“Don’t tell me the sky is the limit.  There are footprints on the moon!” (Unknown)

Dream!  Aspire!  Humanity at its best! 🙂


May 9, 2010 Posted by | America, Attitude, Business, Change, Collaboration, Dream, History, Leadership, Marketing, Passion, Purpose, Success, USA | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

The Engaging Leader: Winning with Today’s Free Agent Workforce

“People don’t quit their jobs, they quit their bosses.  Skilled people want to work for winning leaders.  Grade A talent wants to work for Grade A leadership.  It won’t settle for less.”

In The Engaging Leader, Dr. Ed Gubman communicates how to draw out employees’ enthusiasm and commitment; how to retain and nurture companies’ most prized and priceless assets — employees:

  • Engaging leaders are drivers and buildersDrivers are decisive decision makers; putting results first, stress the bottom line, and crack the whip (maintaining pressure on accountability and come down hard when goals aren’t met).
  • Builders put people and process first.  Builders are relationship-oriented.  Builders let solutions emerge, take a long-term focus, stay behind the scenes more, and are more positive than critical. (They are, by no means, indecisive.  Builders possess goals and visions.  They rely on natural consequences vs. immediate consequences by an authority).

Engaging leaders know when to be drivers and when to be builders.

Furthermore, Dr. Gubman states, “Employees (talent) want freedom, control, accountability, and caring.” 

  • Freedom — the freedom of expression and the ability to be who you are, not someone you’re not.
  • Control — people enjoy their work when they know what their responsibilities are and have the autonomy to achieve them.  They don’t want to be micromanaged.  Even when what-to-do comes from above, talented employees expect to figure out how to do it themselves.
  • Accountability — giving someone an assignment and holding him or her responsible for delivering results.
  • Caring relationships increase people’s investments in your workplace.  Warm relationships help employees feel connected and will motivate them to work for you — to help you meet your goals.  Employees will confide in personal matters if they feel safe.  They also want some friends in the workplace.

Tough and tender, a loveable task master, realistic optimist … whatever you call it, the intersection of driving and building behaviors is what engages most people. 

Successful leaders learn this in their interactions with people.  They become more versatile, expanding their own styles by taking on some behaviors that are unnatural to them at first, but become second nature as followers reinforce them by responding favorably. 

The ability to incorporate parts of these seeming opposites, like the skill of reconciling group goals and individual needs, will make you an engaging leader and a long-time, big time winner.  (Full Story)


April 11, 2010 Posted by | Attitude, Book Review, Business, Change, Collaboration, Compassion, Dream, Education, Freedom, Fun, Health and Wellness, Heart, Introspection, Leadership, Marketing, Mind, Passion, Peace, Politics, Purpose, Self Help, Soul, Spirit, Spirituality, Success | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

What is self esteem anyway?

While it may be intangible, self-esteem is not invisible.  It’s easy to spot people who have high self-esteem by their behavior.  Chances are, the people you most like being with possess it in abundance.  These people are frequently described as “gracious” and “thoughtful,” which make them desirable as friends.  They love and care for themselves, but they are not arrogant.  They have compassion for others, which rise out of their compassion for themselves. 

Since a few of us accidentally arrive at a place of healthy self-esteem, these folks may be constantly aware of their own struggles to achieve and their ongoing effort to nurture it.  Their curiosity and interest in others lead them to be excellent listeners, another magnetic quality.  In addition, they have an elevated sense of personal responsibility; they rarely blame others for their problems or misfortunes.  They may have a passionate desire to contribute to society. 

Whether they say it or not, those with high self-esteem frequently have a sense of mission in their lives that others lack.  Knowing their own worth gives them a profound sense that they are here for some purpose, which, in turn, shows itself in reverence for life.  

Forward-thinking, they are aware that all past experiences in their lives have helped to mold their character.  Even when their lives have seemed difficult, you’ll hear them say, “I wouldn’t change a thing.”  They have a strong aura of integrity and truthfulness about them, but they are truly sensitive to the feelings of others.  People with high self-esteem don’t have the need to say everything that’s on their minds. 

The bonus you receive for hanging out with these folks is that in their presence you feel safe and accepted just as you are.  In fact, when you leave them you may find that you like yourself a bit more.  (Full Story)

April 3, 2010 Posted by | Attitude, Beauty, Book Review, Business, Compassion, Education, God, Gratitude, Health and Wellness, Leadership, Passion, Peace, Purpose, Self Help, Soul, Spirit, Stress | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Hiring Dynamic, Creative, Caring, Ethical Managers!

Here’s an organization to die for — managers who empower employees!  Love to meet this person some day!


  • Fair, not nice. Managers must make tough decisions. Managers require vision and integrity — the courage to do the right thing. The best working environments are those where employees are treated fairly.  Employees know what is expected and know the consequences of their actions; both good and bad. No favorites, no double standards. Managers are leaders. Managers aren’t friends. Find friendships outside of the workplace.
  • Hire people who are smarter than you. Smart employees will help you succeed. They will make you look good. Establish the objectives and let them do their jobs. Don’t micromanage. Don’t be jealous. Don’t hold them back. Listen to their ideas. Your employees may know more than you.
  • Take calculated risks. Risk taking is part of management. “No decision” is a decision.  “No decision” will frustrate employees. You will lose respect. Do your homework.  Trust your gut. It’s usually right.
  • Never fire anyone when angry. Anger is a strong emotion. Emotion obstructs rational thinking. A cool head leads to logical thought — the right time for decision making.


  • Create a team of mentors. Find people who are capable of helping;  willing to help you succeed. Mentors watch out for your interests.  They understand your goals.
  • Encourage disagreements, discussions, and debates. “Two heads are better than one.” Go with the best solution, not always your solution; otherwise, you may be out of a job.
  • Know how to manage different personalities. Learn how to communicate with your employees. Different people react differently to discussions; some you can be direct with, others require more tact. Personality profiles can help match a person to a specific job.


  • Clear expectations. Clearly communicate employee’s responsibilities and manager’s expectations. Perceptions vary. Success begins with everyone on the same page.
  • Know the desired outcome of the resolution. What is the best possible solution? Be rational. With the desired outcome in mind, determine the necessary steps to reach the goal.
  • Confront bad issues immediately. Bad situations don’t go away. They only get worse. Immediately talk to the offender. Communicate, “This cannot happen again.”
  • Praise in public. Punish in private. Humans are emotional, not rational. Save face.
  • Say “Thank You.” Your success is dependent on your team members’ success. Say “thank you” and sincerely appreciate their hard work. They are your support structure. Without them, you may not survive. Saying “thank you” is one of the easiest and most appreciated actions.  (Full Story) 

March 28, 2010 Posted by | America, Art, Attitude, Business, Change, Collaboration, Compassion, Dream, Education, Gratitude, Health and Wellness, Introspection, Leadership, Mind, Purpose, Self Help, Success | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

How to Lower Property Taxes

If home prices fell 27 percent from the 2006 peak to the end of 2008 (S&P/Case Shiller Index), why are we seeing 12 percent increase in tax revenue for municipalities? 

Why aren’t homeowners getting breaks from property taxes?  

Human nature, perhaps.  What government worker wants to take a pay cut, especially when their source of revenue is property tax?  I certainly wouldn’t.  Would you?

The tables turn, however, when we’re on the other side of the fence.  CNN Money.com  informs what homeowners can do to appeal property assessments in any year:

  1. Check the accuracy of your official property record, available online or in the assessor’s office.  Factual errors aren’t uncommon.  For example, if your house has three bedrooms rather than four, your taxes can get lowered immediately.
  2. Gather info on comparable homes using real estate sites or contact your realtor.  Look for homes within a mile of your address that sold within two months of the municipality’s assessment date (usually Jan. 1).
  3. Informally discuss findings with the assessor.  If meetings go nowhere (with so many angry taxpayers, there’s no guarantee we may even get a meeting), appeal ASAP.  If you can’t get a date until after taxes are due, pay up; get a refund after winning.
  4. If you lose, get a property tax attorney.  Ask for contingency.  Avoid hourly fees of $150 to $400.  Most demand half of your first year’s tax savings.  If you win, those savings should accrue for years to come.

Bottom line, time, research, and perseverance just might yield desired results.  🙂 


February 21, 2010 Posted by | America, Attitude, Business, Change, Finance, Money, Self Help, Stress | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment