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READ THE BIBLE IN 365 DAYS: SHORT AND CONCISE (9/6)

TODAY’S SCRIPTURES:

Song of Solomon 1:1-4:16  King Solomon and His New Bride Rejoice in Their Love.  Solomon, a son of King David became king.  While visiting a vineyard, Solomon is swept away by the young peasant woman working the vines.  The king seeks the woman’s hand in marriage.  Casting her insecurities aside, she eventually consents.  Solomon’s wife longed for the security of his presence.  The basis of true love is commitment.  A relationship built on true love is void of deceit, manipulation, or exploitation.   

2 Corinthians 8:16-24  Apostle Paul Sends Cohort, Titus, to Receive Collection from the Corinthian Congregation.  Following the Lord’s examples, Christians are called to be generous; a stingy Christian should be extinct; however, sacrificial giving must be responsible.  Give until it hurts but not to the point where it hurts the financial needs of your family and relatives. Paul used every safeguard to maintain integrity in the collection of money for the Jerusalem church.  Christians must have the highest standard of financial responsibility.

Psalm 50:1-23  WISDOM: TO FEAR AND HONOR GOD.  Consider this, you who forget God, or I will tear you to pieces, with no one to rescue you:  Those who sacrifice thank offerings honor me, and to the blameless I will show my salvation.

Proverbs 22:22-23  Advocate for the poor.  Do not exploit the poor because they are poor and do not crush the needy in court, for the Lord will take up their case and will exact life for life.

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September 6, 2012 Posted by | Attitude, Body, Change, Christianity, Collaboration, Compassion, Dream, Education, Finance, Freedom, God, Gratitude, Health and Wellness, Heart, History, Introspection, Leadership, Love, Marriage, Mind, Passion, Peace, Purpose, Self Help, Soul, Spirit, Spirituality, Stress, Success | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

READ THE BIBLE IN 365 DAYS: SHORT AND CONCISE (8/18)

TODAY’S SCRIPTURES:

Esther 1:1-3:15  King Ahasuerus of Persia personally chose Esther to become his wife and queen.  The king was smitten by her beauty and intelligence.  Mordecai, Esther’s uncle, refuses to bow down to Haman, the king’s high official.  Angry prideful Haman vows to destroy Mordecai and his people, the Jews.

1 Corinthians 11:17-34  Apostle Paul instructs believers on the meaning of the Lord’s Supper.  This’ is not the time to feast & get drunk.  The Lord’s Supper is the time to reflect, remember, and proclaim God’s ultimate sacrifice for our sins.

Psalm 35:17-28  King David prays fervently for deliverance from his enemies; from their ploys to destroy him and his people.

Proverbs 21:19-20  It is better to live alone in the desert than with a quarrelsome, complaining wife.  The wise have wealth and luxury, but fools spend whatever they get.

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August 18, 2012 Posted by | Attitude, Beauty, Body, Christianity, Finance, Food, Freedom, God, Gratitude, Heart, History, Holidays, Introspection, Peace, Self Help, Soul, Spirit, Spirituality | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Philanthropy: The Difference Between Enabling and Empowerment

Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.  (Chinese Proverb) 

Over the years, billions of dollars in aid have poured from the developed to developing nations.  Yet 80 percent of our world’s population live on less than $10 per day.

Why?

Perhaps one answer to this complicated issue may lie in enabling — temporary relief — not empowerment.  

Temporary reliefs are handouts.  They’re necessary, especially in life or death situations.  Basic needs — shelter, food, and water — must be met before improving lives. Once immediate needs are met, however, should additional donations continue to simply feed and clothe its recipients?

Are such acts of “kindness” empowering the people or are handouts in the name of “donations” degrading creative minds and resilient spirits into beggars and dependents?

In The Power of Half: One Family’s Decision to Stop Taking and Start Giving Back, the Salwens sold their house and gave away $800,000 to the Hunger Project in Ghana; to equip and empower its people to take back their lives and become self-sufficient:

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We go back into the villages of Ghana [where my family and I invested our funds], and this time the chief hands us a list of things they have accomplished.  ‘Look what we’ve done.’  They are proud of their own activities.  Oh, this is good.  [Empower, not enable].  We are making progress.

The Salwens asked five questions before committing to their work in Ghana:

  • Will our work empower or be a Band-Aid?
  • Do we respect the culture? Do we have enough humility to see our new partners/recipients as equals?
  • Are those partners fully engaged in designing the project?
  • Are we doing this work for the same reasons as our partners, the folks we’re trying to help? Do we have a different agenda?
  • Are we committed for the long haul?  Change does not happen overnight.

Steep learning curve, for me, anyway.  But each of us can make a small difference.  Lots of small differences will result in change!

If you think you’re too small to have an impact, try going to bed with a mosquito.  (Anita Roddick)

To enable or to empower … THAT is the question.  🙂

 

March 14, 2010 Posted by | America, Attitude, Book Review, Change, Christianity, Collaboration, Compassion, Dream, Education, Finance, Food, Freedom, God, Health and Wellness, International, Introspection, Leadership, Love, Mind, Money, Passion, Peace, Purpose, Self Help, Soul, Spirit, Success, War | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

How to Lower Property Taxes

If home prices fell 27 percent from the 2006 peak to the end of 2008 (S&P/Case Shiller Index), why are we seeing 12 percent increase in tax revenue for municipalities? 

Why aren’t homeowners getting breaks from property taxes?  

Human nature, perhaps.  What government worker wants to take a pay cut, especially when their source of revenue is property tax?  I certainly wouldn’t.  Would you?

The tables turn, however, when we’re on the other side of the fence.  CNN Money.com  informs what homeowners can do to appeal property assessments in any year:

  1. Check the accuracy of your official property record, available online or in the assessor’s office.  Factual errors aren’t uncommon.  For example, if your house has three bedrooms rather than four, your taxes can get lowered immediately.
  2. Gather info on comparable homes using real estate sites or contact your realtor.  Look for homes within a mile of your address that sold within two months of the municipality’s assessment date (usually Jan. 1).
  3. Informally discuss findings with the assessor.  If meetings go nowhere (with so many angry taxpayers, there’s no guarantee we may even get a meeting), appeal ASAP.  If you can’t get a date until after taxes are due, pay up; get a refund after winning.
  4. If you lose, get a property tax attorney.  Ask for contingency.  Avoid hourly fees of $150 to $400.  Most demand half of your first year’s tax savings.  If you win, those savings should accrue for years to come.

Bottom line, time, research, and perseverance just might yield desired results.  🙂 

 

February 21, 2010 Posted by | America, Attitude, Business, Change, Finance, Money, Self Help, Stress | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Boundaries With Teens — Ignoring Parents, Impulsive Behaviors, Internet, Money, Moodiness (8/10)

Adults have consequences, why shouldn’t teens?  Like it or not, the law of cause and effect will, sooner or later, override their “thought out” excuses.

If we don’t teach our kids the values of hard work and responsible actions, SOCIETY WILL. Job hopping, isolation, withdrawal — THAT is the HARD WAY to learn.

Dr. Townsend, you are right on!  Rescuing and enabling is not love.  I love my two sons WAY TOO MUCH to let society teach them life’s lessons. 

Allow your child to experience natural consequences (money, for example.  If teens overspend, let them work and pay back what they owe — better they learn this priceless lesson under our roofs than when on their own). 

“Set firm boundaries.  Find out what your teen needs, is invested in, lusts for, and take it away.”  Care enough to confront.

THANK YOU, Dr. Townsend!  🙂

September 17, 2009 Posted by | Attitude, Book Review, Change, Collaboration, Compassion, Education, Finance, Freedom, Gratitude, Health and Wellness, Heart, Introspection, Leadership, Love, Mind, Passion, Peace, Purpose, Self Help, Soul, Success | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Brain Rules (XI) — Male Brains and Female Brains are Different

Men and women are equal; however, we’re not the same. (Unknown)

Sounds reasonable.  Seems to ring true for male and female brains, too.  Here are a few differences:

  • Women tend to use the brain’s left and right hemisphere to process verbal info.  Men primarily use one.
  • Women tend to have thick cables connecting their two hemispheres.  Men’s are thinner.
  • Men bond through physical activities.  Women bond by talking and sharing secrets.
  • Men and women respond differently to acute stress:  women remember the emotional details.  Men get the gist.  (see Play By Rules, Rule #11 [3:00])

How beautiful!  Men and women — big picture and details — we can complement each other’s strengths and conquer the world … if you fit the stereotype. 

What if you’re a woman who prefers to see the big picture or a man who likes to be detail-oriented? 

Do you agree with the research findings?  Do you disagree?  🙂

August 19, 2009 Posted by | Attitude, Book Review, Business, Change, Collaboration, Compassion, Education, Finance, Heart, Introspection, Marketing, Marriage, Mind, Peace, Politics, Purpose, Self Help, Soul, Spirit, Success | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Brain Rules (VII) — Sleep Well. Think Well.

When we sleep well, we feel well — more alert, more energized, more everything!

Why?

Our minds and bodies are rejuvenating and revitalizing! … Well, almost.

Our bodies may be resting but our minds are processing, integrating, and solidifying new learning while we sleep (Dr. John Medina).  Great news for those who wish to be productive 24/7.

One NASA study shows that a 26-minute-nap can increase pilots’ productivity by 34 percent!

Awake or asleep, our brains are on the go! (see Play by Rules, Rule #7 [5:00])

Time for siesta! 🙂

August 13, 2009 Posted by | Body, Book Review, Business, Change, Education, Finance, Health and Wellness, Heart, Introspection, Leadership, Marketing, Mind, Passion, Peace, Purpose, Self Help, Soul, Spirit, Spirituality, Success | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Tired of Politics?

Democrat or a Republican, the people lose.  Peons always lose.  The rich, the powerful, and the well-connected prosper.

(Not all.  There are philanthropic wealthy folks out there, but that’s looking for the needle in a haystack; my reality, anyway.  If you know otherwise, I’m all ears.  I’d like to be more optimistic).

In theory, democracy, communism, capitalism, socialism, and what have you all promote happiness.  Ideologies promise social stability, economic security, and prosperity.  Theories and concepts — always successful — on paper.

In real life — not so.  Ego and greed get in the way.

Got money, want more money.  Got power, want more power.  Intimidate, manipulate — who cares?  Ends ALWAYS justify the means!

A dear friend once said, “I don’t care who wins the election.  I suck up the reality and work around the policies.  I protect me.  I’ve got to watch out for my interests.”

Smart lady.

Guess what?

She pulled out her stocks just days before the Wall Street melt down. (According to friends, gold is the safest investment.  Thoughts?)

“How did you know?” I asked.

“I didn’t, for sure.  ‘Just listened to my brain and my sixth sense.  I didn’t grasp the magnitude of the financial fiasco but my investor wasn’t making sense.  My portfolio was shrinking by the second and he’s telling me to hang in there?!  Who, at 63, has the luxury of time and money?!  Hell no!  Forget what anyone says.  People always look after their self-interests first.  Gotta use our brains and think.”

Cynical?  Yes.

Wise?  A double yes.

Twenty years from now, at 63, I’d like to be less cynical; hopefully, as wise.

Tired of politics?  Tired of being screwed?

Forget political parties.  Forget government.  Forget the wealthy. (Unless, you’re one of them.)

I have to think — gather facts, analyze, and synthesize.  Only I can protect me. 🙂

July 29, 2009 Posted by | Attitude, Business, Change, Education, Finance, Freedom, Health and Wellness, Heart, Introspection, Mind, Money, Peace, Politics, Purpose, Self Help, Soul, Spirit, Stress, Success | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

The U.S. Food Industry — Faster, Fatter, Bigger, Cheaper, Death! (II)

Who ever imagined eating would become life-threatening?!

When big businesses and government look solely after their self interests, the populace are screwed.

A two-year-old dies from E. Coli infested meat. Who cares? Profit over life.  Money is THE ONLY “LANGUAGE” greed understands.

(Why have two-party systems?  Forget Democrats and Republicans.  Once in power, most simply pursue their self interests.  Why not call “Spade” a “Spade” — the “Have Conscience” and the “Don’t Have Conscience.”)

Food, Inc. reveals chilling realities:

  • Chickens stuffed in dark “growing houses” — no space to move, no space for exercise, smeared in feces.  Cows, too. Feces halfway up their legs!  Wonder why more people aren’t dropping dead left and right from food poisoning?!
  • Mexicans lured by American meat corporations at $8 to $10 per hour wages; entering the country illegally, enduring inhumane working conditions. Corporate big shots are never charged.  Just the hardworking undocumented workers brought to the plants by their cut throat employers.  (Former corporate employees hold powerful government positions.  One of the many dirty secrets between government and corporations — fattening their wallets and taking advantage of the people and consumers they supposedly serve).
  • Working class families are getting sick from $1 meals and other cheap, high sodium, nutritionally poor, fast foods. Bread winners on costly medications are choosing to eat cheaply, not healthy.  Consequences — illness, high prescription costs, tight budgets, unhealthy food choices, cheap processed foods, more sickness.
  • Farmers who take on the food industry giants face emotional and financial bankruptcy — silenced, alone, jobless.

The vicious cycle — greed and intimidation — continue.

Until now … KNOWLEDGE IS POWER.

Strength lies in numbers.  No demand, no supply.  Look at the tobacco industry!

Food industry, you’re next!

Consumers, it’s time to DEMAND safe, quality, real food.  The time is NOW.  Take matters into our own hands.  We want our health back!  We want our lives back!

Whose side are you on, “Have conscience” or “Don’t have conscience?”

IT’S A MATTER OF LIFE AND DEATH!  SPREAD THE WORD!

July 28, 2009 Posted by | America, Attitude, Body, Business, Change, Citizen, Collaboration, Education, Finance, Food, Freedom, Health and Wellness, Heart, Marketing, Mind, Money, Movie, Politics, Purpose, Self Help, Soul, Spirit, Spirituality, Stress, Success, War | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Dale Carnegie’s “How to Win Friends & Influence People” (Summary)

In a nut shell, treat others the way you want to be treated — respect, listen, empathize, encourage!

I wonder how long it’ll take my head knowledge to drop down a foot and become heart knowledge — hopefully, not a lifetime!

For readers joining us today, click on the link(s) which interest you:

  1. The Art of Leadership
  2. Three Fundamental Techniques in Handling People
  3. Six Ways to Connect With People (I)
  4. Six Ways to Connect With People (II)
  5. Twelve Ways to Persuade    (I) — Blow Off Steam or Problem Solve?
  6. Twelve Ways to Persuade   (II) — Empathize, Ask Questions, Listen
  7. Twelve Ways to Persuade (III) — Place Others First
  8. Twelve Ways to Persuade  (IV) — Take the High Road, Dramatize, Challenge!
  9. Nine Ways to Change People Without Arousing Resentment (I)
  10. Nine Ways to Change People Without Arousing Resentment (II)

Mr. Carnegie, THANK YOU for your wisdom and insights.  I will integrate them throughout life’s journey.

Thank you all for your support! 🙂

July 19, 2009 Posted by | Attitude, Book Review, Business, Change, Christianity, Collaboration, Compassion, Dream, Education, Finance, Freedom, God, Gratitude, Health and Wellness, Heart, International, Introspection, Journalism, Leadership, Love, Marketing, Marriage, Mind, Passion, Peace, Politics, Purpose, Self Help, Soul, Spirit, Spirituality, Success | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment