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The Engaging Leader: Winning with Today’s Free Agent Workforce

“People don’t quit their jobs, they quit their bosses.  Skilled people want to work for winning leaders.  Grade A talent wants to work for Grade A leadership.  It won’t settle for less.”

In The Engaging Leader, Dr. Ed Gubman communicates how to draw out employees’ enthusiasm and commitment; how to retain and nurture companies’ most prized and priceless assets — employees:

  • Engaging leaders are drivers and buildersDrivers are decisive decision makers; putting results first, stress the bottom line, and crack the whip (maintaining pressure on accountability and come down hard when goals aren’t met).
  • Builders put people and process first.  Builders are relationship-oriented.  Builders let solutions emerge, take a long-term focus, stay behind the scenes more, and are more positive than critical. (They are, by no means, indecisive.  Builders possess goals and visions.  They rely on natural consequences vs. immediate consequences by an authority).

Engaging leaders know when to be drivers and when to be builders.

Furthermore, Dr. Gubman states, “Employees (talent) want freedom, control, accountability, and caring.” 

  • Freedom — the freedom of expression and the ability to be who you are, not someone you’re not.
  • Control — people enjoy their work when they know what their responsibilities are and have the autonomy to achieve them.  They don’t want to be micromanaged.  Even when what-to-do comes from above, talented employees expect to figure out how to do it themselves.
  • Accountability — giving someone an assignment and holding him or her responsible for delivering results.
  • Caring relationships increase people’s investments in your workplace.  Warm relationships help employees feel connected and will motivate them to work for you — to help you meet your goals.  Employees will confide in personal matters if they feel safe.  They also want some friends in the workplace.

Tough and tender, a loveable task master, realistic optimist … whatever you call it, the intersection of driving and building behaviors is what engages most people. 

Successful leaders learn this in their interactions with people.  They become more versatile, expanding their own styles by taking on some behaviors that are unnatural to them at first, but become second nature as followers reinforce them by responding favorably. 

The ability to incorporate parts of these seeming opposites, like the skill of reconciling group goals and individual needs, will make you an engaging leader and a long-time, big time winner.  (Full Story)



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The Difference Between Calling and Desire — Follow Your Heart!

Wading4U’s tweet got me thinking about the difference between calling and desire.

Merriam Webster’s online dictionary states:

  • Calling — a strong inner impulse toward a particular course of action especially when accompanied by conviction of divine influence
  • Desire — to long or hope for

“If you can get paid for doing what you love, every paycheck is a bonus.” (Oprah) — That’s a calling!

“I hate my job but I want fame and fortune.” (Desire) — Where’s the passion, the purpose, the intrinsic motivation?!  Eight hour work day — probably longer — feels like eternity!

Decades ago, I sold my soul to the devil (back when my self-worth was defined by a paycheck).  I worked for two hi-tech companies at two different times — translating and writing corporate brochures, patents, and user manuals.

Was it fun?  Not really; not for me, anyway.  Did the job pay the bills?  Yep.  Corporate politics — pretty ugly.  Was I miserable — absolutely!


(Humans are resilient.  Many unhappy workers go about their jobs.  Most things are possible when we apply ourselves).

Over the years, my paycheck has taken a steady decline (currently, I’m a part-time Instructional Assistant working 30 hours per week).  In return, I’ve acquired time, happiness, and fulfillment (teach, then go home to my family.  It’s the best)!

(Full time [veteran] teachers work 60-80+ hours.  My hats off to them.  That’s a whole another story, a whole another post.)

I am blessed with a husband (who lets me be me) and two sons (all three, the love of my life).  I wake up every morning — eager to start the day — to learn about the world and insights my grade school students await to share.  We read, learn, and grow — together!

Establishing heart-to-heart-connection with children, working with caring adults to make our world a better place, I know, is my calling.  I can eat, breathe, and sleep kids and education!

I once left this profession for more money; exchanged passion for misery.  Luckily, a force much greater than myself pulled me back — where I belong — and for that, I am eternally grateful.

“If you can get paid for doing what you love, every paycheck is a bonus.”  Right on, Oprah!

What’s your calling?  What’s your passion?  WHAT is your purpose in life? 🙂

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