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How to Live the Life We Were Meant to Live

Focus on our passion with every ounce of our being!  Yeah, yeah, much easier said than done … maybe not …

Dan, a bright young man, considered following his father’s passion and profession.  Becoming an engineer seemed safe, the path least likely to lead to mistakes.

Dan earned his engineering degree but didn’t want to use it.  He flirted with the idea of becoming a chef, but came to feel that, although he was fascinated by the inner workings of restaurants, food itself didn’t hold his interest.  Great — now he had a degree he wasn’t using and some work experience he didn’t care to follow up on.  Mistakes and more mistakes!

Meanwhile, working in restaurant kitchens, Dan found himself thinking like an engineer.  He saw each kitchen as a kind of factory, each appliance and tool as a cog in a production process.  How could the factory be made to work most efficiently?  How could time and energy be saved?  How could safety be improved, how could kitchen staff be best protected against burned fingers and sore backs?

Dan came to realize his false starts and meanderings had given him a fairly rare and useful skill set.  He could make schematic drawings; he understood the science of heat and materials.  He knew firsthand how heavy commercial saucepans were, how crucial the spacing of a kitchen line.

Dan became an industrial designer, specializing in commercial kitchens.  He had blundered his way to exactly where he was meant to be. (Full Story)

I’m still searching … a cause which I can immerse myself in with every inch of my being.  My passion and my heart, I know, will guide me.

How about you?  What do you want to be when you grow up? 🙂



June 20, 2010 Posted by | Attitude, Book Review, Change, Dream, Education, Freedom, Health and Wellness, Introspection, Mind, Passion, Peace, Purpose, Self Help, Soul, Spirit, Success | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

The Engaging Leader: Winning with Today’s Free Agent Workforce

“People don’t quit their jobs, they quit their bosses.  Skilled people want to work for winning leaders.  Grade A talent wants to work for Grade A leadership.  It won’t settle for less.”

In The Engaging Leader, Dr. Ed Gubman communicates how to draw out employees’ enthusiasm and commitment; how to retain and nurture companies’ most prized and priceless assets — employees:

  • Engaging leaders are drivers and buildersDrivers are decisive decision makers; putting results first, stress the bottom line, and crack the whip (maintaining pressure on accountability and come down hard when goals aren’t met).
  • Builders put people and process first.  Builders are relationship-oriented.  Builders let solutions emerge, take a long-term focus, stay behind the scenes more, and are more positive than critical. (They are, by no means, indecisive.  Builders possess goals and visions.  They rely on natural consequences vs. immediate consequences by an authority).

Engaging leaders know when to be drivers and when to be builders.

Furthermore, Dr. Gubman states, “Employees (talent) want freedom, control, accountability, and caring.” 

  • Freedom — the freedom of expression and the ability to be who you are, not someone you’re not.
  • Control — people enjoy their work when they know what their responsibilities are and have the autonomy to achieve them.  They don’t want to be micromanaged.  Even when what-to-do comes from above, talented employees expect to figure out how to do it themselves.
  • Accountability — giving someone an assignment and holding him or her responsible for delivering results.
  • Caring relationships increase people’s investments in your workplace.  Warm relationships help employees feel connected and will motivate them to work for you — to help you meet your goals.  Employees will confide in personal matters if they feel safe.  They also want some friends in the workplace.

Tough and tender, a loveable task master, realistic optimist … whatever you call it, the intersection of driving and building behaviors is what engages most people. 

Successful leaders learn this in their interactions with people.  They become more versatile, expanding their own styles by taking on some behaviors that are unnatural to them at first, but become second nature as followers reinforce them by responding favorably. 

The ability to incorporate parts of these seeming opposites, like the skill of reconciling group goals and individual needs, will make you an engaging leader and a long-time, big time winner.  (Full Story)


April 11, 2010 Posted by | Attitude, Book Review, Business, Change, Collaboration, Compassion, Dream, Education, Freedom, Fun, Health and Wellness, Heart, Introspection, Leadership, Marketing, Mind, Passion, Peace, Politics, Purpose, Self Help, Soul, Spirit, Spirituality, Success | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

How to Reach Your Full Potential for God

Before introducing Dr. Charles Stanley’s latest publication, I wish to clarify, I am no right-wing conservative; to the contrary, a left-leaning Independent; a social progressive and fiscally, moderately conservative. 

More importantly, having been screwed too many times by unreliable knowledge and the perception of truth, this hopeless sinner came to the Lord 16 years ago, gradually beginning to trust what I’ve yet to understand (yes, the disobedient child FINALLY listens to her Father because her ways have resulted in intolerable pain and sheer misery).

Have you ever wondered, “What is my calling?  What is my purpose here on this earth?”

You’re not alone.  I know at least half a dozen friends who’ve shared similar thoughts, myself included.

Dr. Charles Stanley’s How to Reach Your Full Potential for God describes God’s wisdom and His ways:

  1. God always gives us opportunities that challenge who we are already and that are designed to move us to a new level of what we are already doing. (The bold, courageous, fisherman, Peter, puts down his net to serve Jesus, becoming a fisher of men.)
  2. God always calls us to something.  Jesus does not call us to quit something and remain idle for the rest of our days. (God didn’t simply tell Abram to leave his homeland.  God provided clear directions on how to reach the new land and the future that awaited him).
  3. God sets before us a challenge that holds the opportunity for blessings beyond ourselves. (If an opportunity is only for you or your immediate family, it very likely is not from God.) 
  4. God will confirm His presence as you pursue the challenge He has set before you.  (Peter walked on water until his faith in Jesus waned.  Peter also walked back–on water–to the boat with Jesus.) 
  5. God’s challenges will always accompany the enabling power of the Holy spirit.  He will remind you of God’s commandments, Bible stories, and lasting promises of God’s Word.  In most exciting ways, The Holy Spirit will give you His creative and productive ideas.

At 44-years-old, I continue to search for my ultimate calling.  I have yet to find out, but regardless of the unknown, I choose to live daily with purpose and joy (doesn’t happen all the time but I try).

What’s your calling?  What do you want to be when you grow up?  🙂

January 30, 2010 Posted by | Attitude, Beauty, Book Review, Change, Christianity, Compassion, Dream, Education, God, Gratitude, Heart, Introspection, Leadership, Love, Mind, Passion, Peace, Purpose, Self Help, Soul, Spirit, Spirituality, Success | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment


Which thoughts do you live by? 

Have a great day! 🙂

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Obedience Requires Courage

Which would you choose?  Known or the unknown?  Knowledge or faith?

If you take comfort in control and predictability, you value knowledge, the known. 

Those of us who’ve been screwed too many times by unreliable knowledge and the perception of truth, gradually begin to trust what we’ve yet to understand.  Yes, the disobedient child FINALLY listens to his parents because his ways have resulted in intolerable pain and sheer misery.

Do we have a choice?

In Touch Ministry’s pastor, Dr. Charles Stanley’s messages always hits the nail on the head, “You reap what you sow, more than what you sow, later than what you sow … Obedience is not for the faint hearted.  Obedience requires discipline and courage.”

Our life is not just ours.  Our actions — both good and bad — affect others; especially those closest to us.

  • Adam and Eve ate the forbidden fruit.  God banned them from the Garden of Eden. 
  • King David’s affair with Bathsheba causes negative repercussions.  First, the child conceived would die.  David’s many children would always fight. This is especially hard on David because he loves his children very much.  God forgives King David but David must still face his consequences.

The world has eyes. (Marianne Williamson).  What is said and done in secret will be shouted from the rooftop. (Luke 12:2-3)

For the year 2010, I will continue to work on obedience.  I’m not courageous.  I simply don’t care for the consequences.

God, thanks for your patience, guidance, and understanding!

What’s your new year’s resolution? 🙂

January 2, 2010 Posted by | Attitude, Change, Christianity, Compassion, God, Introspection, Leadership, Love, Peace, Purpose, Self Help, Soul, Spirit, Spirituality, Success | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Inspiring Quotes: Hope and Healing

Feeling lonely, angry, tired, hopeless?

Relax, accept, embrace.  You are perfect … just the way you are.

“Out of our vulnerabilities will come our strength.” (Sigmund Freud)

“Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start form now and make a brand new ending.”  (Carl Bard)

“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.”  (Winston Churchill)

October 13, 2009 Posted by | Attitude, Change, Compassion, Education, Freedom, Gratitude, Health and Wellness, Heart, Introspection, Love, Mind, Peace, Purpose, Self Help, Spirit, Success | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Coco Chanel C’est Magnifique!

“To be irreplaceable, you have to be different.”  (Coco Chanel)

Attractive, ambitious, charming, capricious, creative, elegant, simplicity, feisty, progressive, rebellious, legendary! 

Vive Chanel!

October 11, 2009 Posted by | Art, Attitude, Beauty, Business, Change, Dream, Europe, Heart, International, Leadership, Mind, Movie, Passion, Success, USA | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

The Perfect Education

Life:  Black + White = GRAY!  


Seriously, when it comes to education, I want nothing less than the best for my kids — my two sons and the students I am privileged to serve at my elementary school.

What do you want for your children?  What values are dear to you?

I try to model hard work, a kind heart, and community service.  I want all kids to excel — to achieve, to give back to society, to care for those who are less fortunate … to speak up for those unable to speak for themselves.

At the same time, WE are students of the world’s most prestigious school — the school of Life; rarely black and white — constantly challenging us to strike a balance between the heart and the mind.

Strive to achieve.  How easily and quickly we lose sight of relationships — life’s most precious gifts! 

Put relationship first.  How quickly we may, at times, lose sight of excellence — to better ourselves and our community.

Hard work, kind heart, community service — so clear, so simple — on paper.

Education — the ever so delicate balance between the heart and the mind.

Lifelong learner … that’s me, for sure.  🙂 

September 29, 2009 Posted by | America, Art, Asia, Attitude, Change, Christianity, Collaboration, Compassion, Dream, Education, Freedom, God, Gratitude, Health and Wellness, Heart, Introspection, Love, Mind, Passion, Peace, Purpose, Self Help, Soul, Spirit, Spirituality, Stress, Success | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Edible Education, Citizenship, and Stewardship

Where there’s food, there are people.  When two or more gather, there’s conversation — interaction and connection!  Food not only nourishes our bodies, but more importantly, our hearts and minds!

FOOD — what fun, effective way to educate, equip, and empower the next generation on the ideals of democracy, citizenship, and stewardship! (click here for video)

Edible Education — its real life, hands-on approach facilitates children and adults to get actively involved in learning and doing content and life skills — about health, nutrition, planning, organization, hard work, teamwork, caring, sharing, responsibility, and so much more! (see also All I Really Need to Know, I Learned in Kindergarten)

“Mom, watch me make an awesome omelet!”

Gotta go!  I’m heading to the kitchen!  Gonna cook with my son! 🙂

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Who Are The Important People in Your Life?

God doesn’t give you the people you want, He gives you the people you NEED: To help you, to hurt you, to leave you, to love you, and to make you into the person you were meant to be.  (Unknown) 

No pain, no gain, I guess.

Can’t wait to be all grown up … someday! 🙂

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