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READ THE BIBLE IN 365 DAYS: SHORT AND CONCISE (9/6)

TODAY’S SCRIPTURES:

Song of Solomon 1:1-4:16  King Solomon and His New Bride Rejoice in Their Love.  Solomon, a son of King David became king.  While visiting a vineyard, Solomon is swept away by the young peasant woman working the vines.  The king seeks the woman’s hand in marriage.  Casting her insecurities aside, she eventually consents.  Solomon’s wife longed for the security of his presence.  The basis of true love is commitment.  A relationship built on true love is void of deceit, manipulation, or exploitation.   

2 Corinthians 8:16-24  Apostle Paul Sends Cohort, Titus, to Receive Collection from the Corinthian Congregation.  Following the Lord’s examples, Christians are called to be generous; a stingy Christian should be extinct; however, sacrificial giving must be responsible.  Give until it hurts but not to the point where it hurts the financial needs of your family and relatives. Paul used every safeguard to maintain integrity in the collection of money for the Jerusalem church.  Christians must have the highest standard of financial responsibility.

Psalm 50:1-23  WISDOM: TO FEAR AND HONOR GOD.  Consider this, you who forget God, or I will tear you to pieces, with no one to rescue you:  Those who sacrifice thank offerings honor me, and to the blameless I will show my salvation.

Proverbs 22:22-23  Advocate for the poor.  Do not exploit the poor because they are poor and do not crush the needy in court, for the Lord will take up their case and will exact life for life.

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September 6, 2012 Posted by | Attitude, Body, Change, Christianity, Collaboration, Compassion, Dream, Education, Finance, Freedom, God, Gratitude, Health and Wellness, Heart, History, Introspection, Leadership, Love, Marriage, Mind, Passion, Peace, Purpose, Self Help, Soul, Spirit, Spirituality, Stress, Success | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

READ THE BIBLE IN 365 DAYS: SHORT AND CONCISE (9/5)

TODAY’S SCRIPTURES:

Ecclesiastes 10:1-12:14  Wisdom for Life.  A wise person chooses the right road; a fool takes the wrong one.  If your boss is angry at you, don’t quit!  A quiet spirit can overcome even great mistakes.  Kings and rulers make a grave mistake when they give great authority to fools and low positions to the wise … Conclusion: Fear God and obey His commands, for this is everyone’s duty.  God will judge us for everything we do, including every secret thing, good and bad.

2 Corinthians 8:1-15  Give joyfully.  Your giving should not make life easy for others and hard for yourselves. There should be some equality.  Right now you have plenty and can help those in need. Later, they’ll have plenty and can share when you’re in need. In this way, things will be equal.

Psalm 49:1-20  Faith vs. Wealth.  In the morning the godly will rule over the rich.  The rich bodies will rot in the grave, far from their grand estates.  But as for me, God will redeem my life … When the rich die, they take nothing.  In this life, they consider themselves fortunate and are applauded for their success.  But they will die like all before them and never again see the light of day.  People who boast of their wealth will die, like animals.

Proverbs 22:20-21  Sayings of the Wise.  I have written thirty sayings for you,  filled with advice and knowledge.  In this way, you may know the truth and take an accurate report to those who sent you.

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READ THE BIBLE IN 365 DAYS: SHORT AND CONCISE (9/4)

TODAY’S SCRIPTURES:

Ecclesiastes 7:1-9:18  Wisdom for Life 

2 Corinthians 7:8-16  Apostle Paul is elated.  The Corinthian congregation listened and repented from their sins.  They were also quite hospitable to Apostle Titus, Paul’s co-laborer in Christ, during his visit in Corinth.   Paul is grateful.

Psalm 48:1-14  God, Our Deliverer, Protector, and Provider.   God came to Jerusalem’s defense, revealing Himself in its towers.   The evil kings joined forces to conquer the city but was stunned and gripped with fear.  In no time, God destroyed them  all;  by His mighty power.  Let our minds be filled with good thoughts of God, His loving-kindness, His power.  Glory be to God for the great things He has done; He who will lead us into eternity. 

Proverbs 22:17-19  Listen to the words of the wise; apply your heart to my instruction.  For it is good to keep these sayings in your heart and always ready on your lips.  I am teaching you today—yes, you— so you will trust in the Lord.

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READ THE BIBLE IN 365 DAYS: SHORT AND CONCISE (9/3)

TODAY’S SCRIPTURES:

Ecclesiastes 4:1-6:12  On the Advantages of Companionship, Wisdom and the Futility of Chasing Political Power and Wealth, Keep All Promises to God, God Has Decided Our Destiny.  King Solomon knew, the ones who needed this book were least likely to read it. They were busy enjoying life — wildly driving towards a cliff.  Solomon substituted powerful statements that would seize reader’s attention and slowly turn them back to God.  Solomon also shared his own conclusions.

2 Corinthians 6:14-7:7  Work toward holiness.  Fear the Lord.  Apostle Paul warns Christians not to team up with unbelievers for righteousness cannot partner with wickedness, and to work toward complete holiness for fear of the Lord.  Apostle Titus informs Paul the Corinthians have repented from their evil ways.  Paul is elated.

Psalm 47:1-9  Praise be to God our Almighty King!  For God is the King over all the earth.  God reigns above the nations, sitting on His holy throne.  The rulers of the world have gathered with the people of the God of Abraham.  For all the kings of the earth belong to God.  He is highly honored.

Proverbs 22:16  A person who gets ahead by oppressing the poor or by showering gifts on the rich will end in poverty.

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READ THE BIBLE IN 365 DAYS: SHORT AND CONCISE (9/2)

TODAY’S SCRIPTURES:

Ecclesiastes 1:1-3:22  Apart from God, life is empty and unsatisfying.  Fear God and keep His commandments, for this is the whole duty of man. (12:13)  King Solomon, the son of great King David, pursues worldly pleasures.  At last, He realizes and laments life’s fleeting nature and its inequities, “Learning, pleasure, work, laughter–all is vanity.  People live, work hard, and die, only to leave their belongings to someone else; the wicked prosper over the righteous, the poor are oppressed.”  King Solomon concludes, “Fear God and keep His Commandments, for this is the whole duty of man.” (12:13)

2 Corinthians 6:1-13  Apostle Paul fervently addresses the fence-sitters of the Corinthian Church–those not yet born-again–to open their hearts and accept God.  God’s power is working in us … We serve God whether people honor, despise, slander, or praise us … We have been beaten but we have not been killed.  Our hearts ache, but we always have joy. We are poor, but we give spiritual riches to others …  Oh, dear Corinthian friends! We have spoken honestly with you, and our hearts are open to you. There is no lack of love on our part, but you have withheld your love from us.  I am asking you to respond as if you were my own children. Open your hearts to us!

Psalm 46:1-11  The God of Israel is our fortress.  The Lord of Heaven’s Armies is here among us.  God is our refuge and strength, always ready to help in times of trouble.  So we will not fear when earthquakes come and the mountains crumble into the sea.  Let the oceans roar and foam.  Let the mountains tremble as the waters surge!  “Be still, and know that I am God!  I will be honored by every nation.  I will be honored throughout the world.”

Proverbs 22:15  Spare the rod, spoil the child.  A youngster’s heart is filled with foolishness,  but physical discipline will drive it far away.  (Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them. [Proverbs 13:24])

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September 2, 2012 Posted by | Attitude, Change, Christianity, Compassion, Education, Family, Freedom, God, Gratitude, Health and Wellness, Heart, History, Introspection, Leadership, Love, Mind, Money, Passion, Peace, People, Purpose, Self Help, Soul, Spirit, Spirituality, Stress, Success | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

READ THE BIBLE IN 365 DAYS: SHORT AND CONCISE (9/1)

TODAY’S SCRIPTURES:

Job 40:1-42:17  God’s Divine Purpose — All things work together for our good and His glory.  Job was the Lord’s servant who delighted in His ways. The Lord allowed Job to be tested and Job overcame, not by works, but by the Lord’s grace. In the end, the Lord’s favor upon Job saved him.  Job sought out the Lord continually, crying for help and justice.   Despite all trials, Job knew God loved Him, as he quickly repented upon hearing the Lord.  Job’s friends, however, could only see the surface.  Misfortunes, to them, meant a wicked heart. God is merciful and loving. Affliction is not God’s judgment.  He has a purpose for everything.  Let us trust in God who works all things for His Divine Glory.

2 Corinthians 5:11-21   Christians are God’s Ambassadors.  Apostle Paul addresses the Corinthian Church, “We are God’s Ambassadors.  Because we understand our fearful responsibility to the Lord, we work hard with a sincere heart to persuade others. Christ’s love controls us.  Since we believe that Christ died for all, we also believe that we have all died to our old life.  He died for everyone so that those who receive His new life will no longer live for themselves. Instead, they will live for Christ, who died and was raised for them.”

Psalm 45:1-17  The Wedding Psalm– The promise of marriage is intimacy and security.  These two are present in our relationship with the Lord.  The Psalm closes on such note—leading us in the security that we enjoy with the Lord in His palace.

Proverbs 22:14  Immorality and God’s Wrath.  The mouth of an immoral woman is a dangerous trap; those who anger the Lord will fall into the trap.

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September 2, 2012 Posted by | Attitude, Change, Christianity, Compassion, Education, Freedom, God, Gratitude, Health and Wellness, Heart, History, Introspection, Leadership, Love, Marriage, Mind, Money, Passion, Peace, Purpose, Self Help, Soul, Spirit, Spirituality, Success | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Boundaries With Teens — When All Else Fails … (10/10)

A friend once said, “Teens may look and act like they don’t need parents any more but they need you now more than ever.” 

If that’s the case, I’ll be on my toes for the next ten years, trying to (barely) stay one step ahead of my kids.

What are my options when I’m at the end of my rope?

Dr. Townsend imparts his words of wisdom:

1.     Be the Grown Up

  • Keep teen’s future in mind — use current circumstances to equip and prepare your teen for adult life in the real world
  • Be loving but direct
  • Tolerate teen’s anger — As humanly possible, listen, contain your child’s feelings, understand what he is saying, and clarify whether you deserve his anger.
  • Don’t get hooked into fights. — “We’re finished talking about this for now.  I’ll bring this up at another time when you’re not so upset.”

2.    Make Connections

  • When in doubt, connect with your teen — don’t argue.  Make a connection.

3.    Model Respect and Responsibility

  • Deemphasize control — allow your teen to choose and experience consequences.  Allow your child to experience responsibility.
  • Normalize “No.” — Say “no” when it’s in the best interest of your teen.  Help your child get used to reality.
  • Be soft on preferences and style, and hard on disrespect and selfishness — give your teen room to dress differently but be strict about how he treats you and others.

4.    Seek Help and Support

  • HALT — when you’re hungry, angry, lonely, or tired, don’t threaten your teen with consequences.  Wait until you have the support, energy, or the resources you need.
  • Plug into safe people (friends and therapists) who understand — call for support and wisdom right before or after the problem occurs.  Relax.  We deserve it!

Can’t do this alone.  I’m all for mutual support!

Life — it’s a journey!  🙂

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Boundaries With Teens — Parties, Peers, Phone, Runaways, Sex, Silence (9/10)

“Teens seem to appreciate and respond to adults who won’t judge them, who love them, but who are also willing to confront them.” (J. Townsend)

No wonder I’m glued to this book! 

A two year old can share his piece of mind.  Author and psychologist, Dr. John Townsend imparts his wisdom and expertise on how mature, understanding adults carry themselves:

  • Parties — with your teen, define the problem (alcohol, drugs, sex, troubled youths), set ground rules, and follow through on consequences.  Furthermore, contact the other parent.  Your child doesn’t go to parties until the parent is contacted.  Ask your child’s friend’s parent, “Can I help?”, “Are you going to be at the party the whole time?”, “Is X or Y coming?”  The more parents require teen parties be safe, the more likely they will be. 
  • Peers — we can’t be with our kids 24/7 but we want them to be safe.  So, what tools can we give them?  Here’s one example: “I’m not trying to control you.  I care about you.  You can spend time with X in a group but not alone.  I will restrict your privileges if you choose to do so.”
  • Phone — life comes first.  Ground Rules: Use the phone after finishing homework and chores, use the phone as an answering machine (except call from parents), limit phone time, limit the number of cell phone minutes used, require and role play phone etiquettes (e.g., “Hi, this is Julie.  May I speak to Pam?”)
  • Runaways — it’s a premature way to leave home.  Possible Causes:  Home problems, undeveloped coping skills, substance abuse, sense of entitlement.  Possible Solutions: Get your teen home, get to your teen’s heart, require responsibilities, follow through on consequences, give as much additional structure as necessary, and change whatever you need to change.

Whew!  Parenting — it’s definitely for grown ups!  We can only parent to the level of our maturity.

  • Sex — confront any sexual activity you know about.  Establish consequences — if necessary, take away your teen’s freedom to socialize.  Discuss masturbation (not physically harmful), consequences of sexually transmitted diseases and teen pregnancies.  Let your child know you love and accept her, and you want to help her find help, hope, and a new start (if she is in way over her head).  
  • Silence — Possible Causes: Withdrawal from an intrusive parent, limited ability to describe experiences and emotions, fear of emotion, depression, passive punishment.  Possible Solutions: Discuss with your teen his reason for silence, require dialogue (“You don’t have to tell me everything about your life but I do need you to talk to me — at least when I want to know what you’re doing.  If you choose not to talk to me, you’re telling me you don’t take your responsibilities for being in our relationship seriously, and there will be consequences.”)  

“Being responsible for adolescents tend to expose our weaknesses in ways few experiences do.  Parenting is all about character.  When you work on character issues, you are also working on parenting issues.  As you get healthy, so does your parenting.  So get in touch with people who are mature, loving, and truthful — and use what you learn.” (J. Townsend)

Yes sir! 🙂

September 18, 2009 Posted by | Attitude, Book Review, Change, Education, Health and Wellness, Heart, Introspection, Leadership, Love, Mind, Passion, Peace, Purpose, Self Help, Soul, Spirit, Stress, Success | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Boundaries With Teens — Ignoring Parents, Impulsive Behaviors, Internet, Money, Moodiness (8/10)

Adults have consequences, why shouldn’t teens?  Like it or not, the law of cause and effect will, sooner or later, override their “thought out” excuses.

If we don’t teach our kids the values of hard work and responsible actions, SOCIETY WILL. Job hopping, isolation, withdrawal — THAT is the HARD WAY to learn.

Dr. Townsend, you are right on!  Rescuing and enabling is not love.  I love my two sons WAY TOO MUCH to let society teach them life’s lessons. 

Allow your child to experience natural consequences (money, for example.  If teens overspend, let them work and pay back what they owe — better they learn this priceless lesson under our roofs than when on their own). 

“Set firm boundaries.  Find out what your teen needs, is invested in, lusts for, and take it away.”  Care enough to confront.

THANK YOU, Dr. Townsend!  🙂

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Boundaries With Teens — Deception, Defiance, Detachment, Driving, Deity (7/10)

Didn’t know there were so many connections between teens and “D” words!  Here are Dr. John Townsend’s 5 Ds:

  • Deception and LyingWhen deception begins, relationship ends.  Your teen may fear that truth will interfere with love.  Let him know, “I may not agree or like the things you say, but I’m on your side no matter what.”  Encourage your teen to take a risk and have him decide whether or not you walk the talk.  Follow through with logical consequences (e.g., When your teen is out with friends, he must call home often AND have an adult get on the line to verify the call).
  • Defiance — An argumentative teen tests parental boundaries while still respecting parents as their authority figure.  Defiant teens completely reject parental authority.  Solution?  Stand firm.  Provide structure, self-control, respect for authority, delayed gratification, and impulse control.  Give as much freedom as your teen earns.
  • Detachment — Teen withdraws emotionally, anti-family, or he’s spending too much time in the outside world.  Solution?  Validate teen’s emotions, ask why, and solve the problem.  Require respect.  Schedule and structure family time.  Teens aren’t adults.  They need mature, wise parents to model socially acceptable behaviors. 

There’s more:

  • Driving — What great leverage!  Give your teen a sense of gravity of car ownership.  Tell her she can drive as long as her attitude, conduct, and grades are acceptable.  In addition, she can lose the privilege anytime she chooes not to fulfill her obligations.  With privilege come responsibilities.
  • Deity (God and spirituality) — If you believe in higher power, you know God designed humans for relationships.  Let your teen know God cares more about relationship than about keeping score.  Get your teen involved in a healthy youth group.  Insist that your teen join your family in going to worship services.

Whew!  Three more days to go!  Twelve years to implement (for me)!  🙂

 

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